June 18, 2020

An Open Letter to the Black Lives Matter Movement

* I don't feel that I need to preface this post. But here it is anyway. This blog post is 100% my own opinion. I do not intend to "convert" people to my way of thinking. I have done my best to be respectful of everyone while also voicing my concerns. I would ask that if you choose to add to the conversation to also be respectful of myself and other people. I do not feel this is too much to ask of you. Be responsible for your words. They matter and you matter. 

An Open Letter to the Black Lives Matter Movement

These past few weeks have been intense.

Tension is high. Hate, grief, fear, and anger are at an all-time high. 

All at once, it seemed like the world exploded into an us vs. them war over the validity of black people and their rights as human beings. 

It's crazy that this should even be an issue in 2020. Why should this be one of the biggest debates of our generation? My heart hurts for all of those who have been beat down, segregated, discriminated against, and for all purposes told that they don't matter. This is not the kind of world I want to live in. 

What worries me the most though, is that after it's all said and done, how will white people be treated? Or how will we be expected to act? What I'm trying to say is this: is this a fight for equality or is this a fight for superiority? 

I am a white woman. I am a wife to a white man and a mom to two white sons. What I want to know is how my family will be perceived after this fight is won.

Already I can see the slow degradation of white validity. I have seen so many people apologize for their white skin. Not in an outright way but by letting voices be heard above their own even though the other voice is in the wrong. This is not ok. We do not need to start posturing because we have white skin. 

If I had married a black man and my children were half black would that make them more valid in society's eyes? Would that make me more valid?

I am not raising my sons to feel bad about their skin color. Or to think that they always have to default to the black person. Nor am I raising them to think that they are somehow superior to anyone who may be different from them. They cannot help their heritage any more than you or I can. But they can choose to be better and not go along with racial comments. They can choose to stand up for those who are discriminated against, no matter who that person is. 

I never want them to feel like they need to apologize for their skin color. Just as much as I NEVER, EVER want to see any person of color be made to feel like their skin color somehow degrades their worth.

Every person has the same basic rights. Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. For a lot of people, I know this is not their truth. And the sad thing is, the denial of basic rights does not discriminate. It does not target only black people. 

What about children who live in abusive homes, adults in abusive relationships, employees who are looked down on by their bosses or coworkers? What about the thousands of homeless people who live on America's streets?  Or the people all over the world whose countries are torn apart by corrupt governments, wars, or terrorism? Do they all have equality? Of course not. But I don't see any huge movements to set them free. 

Yes, black lives matter and I would love nothing more than to see the end of this race war that shouldn't exist at all. 

But, there is always a bigger picture. There is always another fight. The fight for equality will never end. Because there will always be someone, whether that be an individual, a group, or a government, that will think they have the right to rip someone's worth from them. 

This is what we should be fighting to stop. The belief that not everyone was created equal is wrong. We came into this world the same way and we will go out the same way. 

Life and death do not discriminate. 

Neither should we.